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Social Media at a Wedding for Guests

By April 20, 2017No Comments

Whether traveling to a distant country or cruising the ocean blue, a destination wedding may be in your future. Before the vows are rehearsed and exchanged, careful time, planning and effort must go into the event to make sure all of the details are arranged. The guests will rely on the bride and groom for guidance. Here’s how to steer them through tricky waters and make sure your special day goes off without a hitch.

1.Who’s along for the adventure?

When planning your guest list, the world is your oyster. You may have always imagined your best friend standing by your side, but the decision may be influenced by how much time she can take off from work. It’s a fact that the numbers will be impacted by time, travel costs and family obligations. It is common for destination weddings to be attended primarily by immediate family members and close friends but even some of these people may not be able to take off to enjoy your special day. It’s important not to take it personally if you receive a few RSVP regrets. Even if a friend or relative has verbally told you they won’t be able to attend, send them an invitation out of goodwill. No doubt, they will still want to visit your guest registry.

2. Can I trust the hotel and venue website to be accurate?

We all love surprises but only the good kind. You would not book a local wedding venue without checking it out, so why take the risk on such an important occasion. It is worth the investment and time for you to visit your venue before the date arrives to make sure the beautiful location is as lovely in person as it is online. You will also want to research alternative hotel for guests who may want to stay at a different location. While a separate trip is not always possible, it’s always best to see your venue first hand.

3. Who covers the costs for the guests?

Guests are generally responsible for paying their own expenses. Unless otherwise stated, a guest should be prepared to make all of their own arrangements. They may count on the bride and groom for guidance. When bringing your entire family, and your young children are not on the guest list, research a list of child care providers in the area and ask for solid references. The hotel usually has a list of reputable resources.

4. Is the guest still obligated to buy a gift?

Although the expense of traveling to a destination wedding is substantial, a gift is also generally an expected part of the ceremony. The guest may want to send it in advance so they don’t have to carry it along. It does not have to be as large or elaborate as it would be without the associated cost of travel. However, a small token gesture is a nice touch.

5.Protecting the Dress

The bride wants to avoid a luggage nightmare and assure that her wedding dress arrives on time and in good condition. Protect the dress by packing it safely and properly in its own garment bag, securely stored in a suitcase or special box specifically designed to safeguard precious cargo. When in doubt, call ahead and speak to the airlines for packing guidance.

Diane Gottsman

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