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Destination Wedding Etiquette

By April 22, 2017No Comments

Whether sailing the ocean blue or traveling to a distant land, a destination wedding may be in your future. Before rehearsing and exchanging vows, time, planning and effort must go into the event to arrange all the details satisfactorily.

Destination Wedding Etiquette by Diane Gottsman

1. Who’s along for the adventure?

When planning your guest list, the world is your oyster. You may have always imagined your best friend standing by your side, but the decision may be influenced by how much time she can take off from work. It’s a fact that time, travel costs and family obligations will affect the number of guests.  It is common for destination weddings to be attended primarily by immediate family members and close friends, but even some of these people may not be able to take off to enjoy your special day. It’s important not to take it personally if you receive a few RSVP regrets. Even if a friend or relative has verbally told you they would not be able to attend, send them an invitation out of goodwill. No doubt, they will still want to visit your guest registry.

2. Can I trust the hotel and venue website to be accurate?

We all love surprises but only the positive kind. You would not book a local wedding venue without checking it out, so why take the risk on such a momentous occasion. It is worth the investment and time for you to visit your venue before the date arrives to make sure the beautiful location is as lovely in person as it is online. You will also want to research alternative hotel for guests who may want to stay at a different place. While a separate trip is not always possible, it’s still best to see your venue first hand.

3. Who covers the costs for the guests?

Guests are generally responsible for paying their expenses. Unless otherwise stated, a guest should be prepared to make all of their own arrangements. They may count on the bride and groom for guidance. When bringing your entire family, and your young children are not on the guest list, research a list of child care providers in the area and ask for solid references. The hotel usually has a list of reputable resources.

4. Is the guest still obligated to buy a gift?

Although the expense of traveling to a destination wedding is substantial, a gift is also generally an expected part of the ceremony. The guest may want to send it in advance, so they don’t have to carry it along. It does not have to be as large or elaborate as it would be without the associated cost of travel. However, a small token gesture is a nice touch.

5. Protecting the Dress

The bride wants to avoid a luggage nightmare and assure that her wedding dress arrives on time and in good condition. Protect the dress by packing it safely and properly in its own garment bag, securely stored in a suitcase or special box specifically designed to safeguard precious cargo. When in doubt, call ahead and speak to the airlines for packing guidance.

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