Dear Diane:
Is it okay to exclude my friends’ husbands when sending out invitations to my daughter’s wedding? Most of the husbands do not know my daughter and it would cut down on our expenses.
LM
Dear LM.,
I strongly recommend including the husbands or cutting down on the guest list. Omitting their spouses “feels” more like an invitation to a Bunco Party than a wedding. Whether the husbands know your daughter or not, it’s a courtesy that should not be overlooked.
I suggest exploring other areas of potential cost savings in the wedding budget that won’t result in hurt feelings. Try to put yourself in their shoes, knowing most of us prefer to attend special events with our significant other. Guests will be more comfortable with their plus one and you’ll avoid having to explain more than once why husbands were not invited.
Thanks for your question and good luck!
Diane
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